A quote from the book “The Boy The Mole The Fox and The Horse, A Poem for Every Night of the Year, A Poem for Every Day” by Charlie Mackesy
I am conscious that after such a long period of isolation, we have forgotten how to communicate with one another . We spend our time on netflix, quizzes, stuck in a book or a jigsaw or texting , emailing, gaming and emojiing ( is there a verb for this?).
We have Zoom meets, Microsoft Teams, Jitsi, Facetime, WhatsApp and all these many modern ways of reaching each other but this is still not real life. For many, video calls are stressful, nerve wracking and, if there are many people on the call, they can be overwhelming and exhausting.
Maybe we give up trying to talk as no one hears us anyway or maybe we stumble over our words as we feel on the spot when it’s our turn to speak or if we don’t know when to speak. So we type in the message box instead, and use our voices even less, speak out even less.
It is possible that we are no longer familiar with the expressive sounds which our voices can make. All the abbreviations we use in messaging do the work for us but if we really are to connect with another human then they need to hear the intention in our words and reactions.
Our mood may be low, our confidence more so but we still need to make it to that online job interview and keep up our working relationships with colleagues. We also need to be heard clearly behind a mask or a visor in shops and face to face situations and this takes more energy from us.
It is January, nature’s time for hibernation, calm, quiet and rest but we need stimulation and connection even more so now than when this crisis began.
I feel we need security in ourselves, our friendships, our working relationships. We need understanding and plenty of empathy for others. We are all in this together. We see the news across the globe and we may think that the world has gone mad!
So we seek solace in small comforts and like minded friends and colleagues. Our voices may be low in tone, inflection, energy and life force (here we need lots of pelvic floor support).
I recommend long expressive sighs and musical yawns. Call a good friend or colleague who does not mind what mood you may be in and will let you vent away to your heart’s content! Keep talking wherever and whenever you can. A little talking every day will ensure that your voice knows what it can do. You are exercising a group of muscles and the more you do this, the easier it will become. No need to push your voice, go gently during this time.
Of course, me being me, will always recommend a good sing to free up the speaking voice but you really don’t need to sing in tune or even any tune at all. You can wail, sigh, road drill (see lip trill exercise) , hum, raa, or oo and aah at the television !
As a mantra, you can say out loud, “I keep on going, I keep the faith that we will be able to hug each other and laugh together once again. I hear my voice say these words and I know that I am ok. I am enough as I am and I can do this.”